The concept of CFNM can be difficult for some to understand. Based on the amount of scantily clad women paraded across the tv/silver screen, magazine lay-outs, music videos and media, we forgive you for assuming that men possess interest only in women whose naked bodies are on full display.
I’t’s true that viewing the naked female body certainly delights men and women alike. However, there is a growing phenomenon of males who are even more turned on by being in the presence of a clothed female. While the man is completely nude.
CFNM (clothed female/naked male) humiliation places the man in an erotically vulnerable position. Men who enjoy engaging in such encounters claim to become increasingly aroused when they are naked, exposed and unguarded in the presence of a fully clothed, confident and dominant woman. Many times these scenarios feature the naked male performing sexual acts and humiliating tasks in front of the female. This is not a requirement, though, for the CFNM fetish to effectively stimulate the persons involved in the exchange.
Naked men in these circumstances are often inspected or commented upon by the dominant woman. What some men find to be particularly arousing is when the female forces him to complete sexually humiliating acts while she observes. For example, she could make him masturbate. Or use a dildo or other sex toy on himself in front of the woman or a group of women. There is no indication or promise that the woman or women will take off their own clothes at any time. And this contrast serves to heighten the erotic piece in this humiliating scene. Sometimes the naked male serves as “furniture” during a party or even as an object of art to be admired.
Why would a man willingly place himself in an apparently “compromising position,” such as the CFNM situations described above?
Behind the seemingly embarrassing element of being in your birthday suit in front of a clothed woman or the only naked person in a room full of clothed people, there is an interesting dynamic at play. A male in such a vulnerable state provides a prime opportunity for the female to dominate and control his body and to direct him to satisfy her whims, thus simultaneously increasing feelings of submission and surrendering of his physical and mental self to her.
Even in a situation where the naked male does not know the woman or women very well, surrendering his body in this way works in tandem to make mental/cognitive submission more attainable. Think about it- being naked generally makes people feel defenseless and exposed. When you capitalize on those feelings, domination and submission fall into place rather effortlessly.
Humiliation of this type works well in that the sense of objectification of the male is heightened. Objectification is the kissing cousin of humiliation. Furthermore, when you treat the male as a mere object, he doesn’t have to think about that project or meeting at work that he’s dreading, the family birthday party he has to attend next Tuesday or the midterm exam lurking around the corner.
He doesn’t have to think about anything at all, other than being the woman’s object of amusement at that moment. He is exempt from making decisions. Exempt from having a choice in the matter at all. He is there only to say “yes” to the woman. There is much more going on underneath the surface of humiliation and objectification than one would initially perceive.
Additionally, CFNM humiliation can work well to provide a sexual charge for the man. Even if the clothed woman doesn’t lay a finger on him, there is the exhibitionism element in this type of play. It excites him to be on display, an object to be preened over and inspected. Showing off his naked body, and receiving attention for it, arouses him.
The woman or women are looking at him, perhaps touching him, using him for whatever suits their mood or need. It can be quite a heady feeling to get such attention by a beautiful woman who is completely in control of the situation. CFNM most certainly appeals to the exhibitionist male population.
Conversely, this very type of attention can work in the opposite way for a more conservative male. Again, this is where the humiliation and embarrassment factor into a CFNM exchange. Being stared at or commented upon by clothed ladies while walking around naked can easily become embarrassing for those shy types who cringe at the notion of being the center of attention.
It clearly all depends on the personalities involved as to the degree of humiliation that can be drawn upon in these scenarios. Humiliation is always a relative and individual thing.
What about the women who enjoy being a part of the CFNM equation? Are they simply perverts or a type of voyeur? Perhaps there is a grain of truth in that sort of hypothesis, but that seems rather superficial. Women involved in this humiliation fetish typically characterize themselves as being dominant. They enjoy being in control of others and thrive on choreographing situations and events.
Some females also find it quite erotic to, “turn the tables,” so to speak, and place the male in the role of sex object. It can be empowering. And it probably calls to those somewhat sadistic types. The ones who long to watch a man squirm and blush when she makes him feel he is nothing more than an object. Treating a male like a “thing” can be just as liberating for the woman as it is for the man.
Keep in mind that objectification through the CFNM fetish need not be done in a cruel or vindictive fashion or mindset in order to be humiliating. One can actually learn something about the art of humility. Consider the discipline you exercise to remain naked and on display. And why? For no other reason than to serve a female who wants to have a nude male serve her own needs and agenda.
Who knew that such humiliating fetishes could be so enlightening?